Have you ever met one of those people? The ones who think the world is out to get them?
“Why do these things keep happening to me!?”
“I work so hard. I deserve more than this.”
“I know I’m great. I’ve lost my last few clients because THEY’RE crazy!”
“I’m so sick of trusting people and being a good person and getting hurt.”
There are a lot of people who live in a state of perpetual victimship. The world is a big, bad place sometimes. Bad stuff happens for no reason at all. The difference is how we handle it. It’s ok to be bummed out, but it won’t get better by living in that state.
Unfortunately, these people don’t see themselves the way the rest of the world does. They get feedback from enablers who tell them, “You’re right. You ALWAYS do the right thing. It’s those other people.” They only listen to those who agree with them. They truly believe they work harder, deliver better, or even feel more than others.
Simply put, they’re delusional.
We all work hard. Yes, some work harder than others. Some who don’t work very hard get to roll around in piles of cash they earned from either dubious or lazy methods. Some really, really hard workers have to keep working really, really hard just to get by in the world. Some of the worst in their professions get the most accolades. Some of the best are ignored. It’s life. It’s hard. It’s not fair.
So what? What does that have to do with you or this blog or any of it?
These people who are victims – let’s call them the cursed – bring that curse with them. They rain on parades and ruin others’ moments. They look for opportunities to complain and kvetch. They bring misery and mayhem and most of all – DRAMA – into every situation they can.
Like it or not, the cursed are probably working for you. They bring that gift of the cursed attitude to the break room, the staff meeting, and the company outing. Worst of all they probably bring it to your customers.
The cursed really can’t help it. They can’t see it. They truly believe they are fighting a good fight against the world and losing. They are battling because they believe those outside forces are really out to get them.
The cursed bring a curse which is a poison to a workplace, a company, or an experience. Don’t let them. Find the cursed, and ask them to bring their curse elsewhere.